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Cartooning in Conflict
Chicago Nov. 4-6

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Try listening to the person in pain

Israelis and Palestinians are finding reconciliation using testimonies, says Miriam Arkush

WHEN missiles fell on Gaza and Sderot in January, repercussions were felt around the world. In Cambridge, as at other universities in this country, students took up their own arms demonstrating, writing letters and articles, and lobbying through blogs and Facebook. Earlier this month, how­ever, they were told by a pas­sionate Israeli-Palestinian duo that creating more wars around the world was not going to solve anything.

Robi Damelin, an Israeli, and Ali Abu Awwad, a Palestinian, were there as part of the UK tour of the Israeli-Palestinian Bereaved Families Forum. They are united in their loss. Mrs Damelins son David was killed by a Palestinian sniper, and Mr Awwads brother Yussuf was killed by an Israeli soldier; he also spent four years in an Israeli prison.

More than 500 families, similarly bereaved by the conflict, make up the Forum, all with their own tale of pain, but all holding the belief that recon­ciliation will come about through dia­­­logue rather than revenge. Real­ising that the other side also has feelings of pain makes impossible the dehumanising attitude of us and them.

The effect is remarkable. As victims, we have a tendency to demonise the other side, denying that they too have a story of suffering. This, Mr Awwad ex­­plained, is what has happened between Israelis and Palestinians. But telling stories as a model of dialogue gives a human face to the other.

The Palestinian mothers feel the same pain as I do, Mrs Damelin said. I promise you. We feel the same pain when we go to bed at night.

Mr Awwad told the audience about the Israelis he had encountered in his life stone-throwing settlers and gun-wielding soldiers. Until the year his brother died, that is, when his family were contacted by an Israeli family who belonged to the Forum: they wanted to visit Mr Awwads family in his Palestinian village.

Within 30 minutes of the visit, everybody was in tears. It was the first time in my life I had seen an Israeli cry, Mr Awwad said. I was used to soldiers in my house, but I had never seen the humility of the other side.

The audience was filled with the leaders of the university Palestinian Solidarity movements, the Israel Soci­ety, the Islamic Society, the Jewish Society, church groups, and dialogue groups. You could see many of them visibly moved by this public act of mutual recognition. In light of it, the angry demonstrations that marked the start of the last university term began to seem childish.

Kat Hanna, a third-year student who has attended many events in Cambridge about the Palestin­ian-Israeli conflict, said that the evening had a humbling and inspiring im­pact. As much as we rant and rave, we students can be more destructive than constructive. There is a certain feeling that it is more fun to do the shouting than the reconciliation.

She hopes that the impact of this event will trickle down to the ranters and ravers. It was the embodiment of showing the story of the other. . . Lets learn a bit more about the conflict first.

THE Woolf Institute of Abrahamic Faiths, which co-hosted the event, is an academic teaching centre, dedic-at­ed to breaking down barriers of intolerance through the study of Islam, Christianity, and Judaism. The Israeli-Palestinian conflict is taught on all courses, and the approach is to offer a safe space in which students can explore the issues in an informed and intelligent way.

The Forums approach of human­ising the conflict will have an impact on the Woolf Institutes teach­ing, says Dr Ed Kessler, its Director. The personal stories bring home the complexity of the subject. Students tend to want simple answers, but even the simple questions have compli­cated answers here.

The Forums goal of recognising the human face behind the percep­tion should be able to inform interfaith dialogue as much as the inter-political conversation. Telling stories can certainly heal the rifts between religions, Dr Kessler says.

We know this because stories are at the heart of all our religions. If they can open up a religion to its followers, stories and human faces can certainly communicate something of that reli­gion to others. We use stories fre­quently here.

These could be biblical stories, Dr Kessler says, or parables, both of which are used by holy writings to com­municate deeper messages. Com­paring, for example, vineyard par­ables from the New Testament and Talmud can bring to life the inter­action between Jewish and early Christian thought.

Dr Kessler also emphasises the use of testimony, especially in Holocaust studies. The testimonies of Holocaust survivors or witnesses make the subject real for students. Stories, whether personal accounts, biblical narratives, or parables, can com­muni­cate something of the other in a particularly effective way.

One thing seems clear, though: we are all going to have to get much better at listening to one another if we are to become like the Damelins and Awwads of the world. We are mar­ried, Mr Awwad said during the evening, but its a very complicated marriage. We have to get divorced, to calm down. But, its our destiny to get remarried: we share the same home, the same kids.

If we are ever to heal the broken marriages of our world between husband and wife, religion and religion, nation and nation we are going to have to be able to listen to the story of others, and accept them on their own terms.

Then we can begin to work to­gether to heal the rift. Being a victim, there is so much pain, Mr Awwad said; but giving up victimhood, there are so many responsibilities.

Miriam Arkush studied Theology at Cambridge University, and now works at the Woolf Institute of Abrahamic Faiths.

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